First of all, by finding this thread you more than likely have already accepted the fact that you are broken up. This is a tough realization for a lot of people but will be beneficial to you in the long run. Below are a few mistakes that you should avoid doing if you want your ex back.

#1: Drunk Dialing

For the a lot of people the first thing you want to do or your friends want you to do is go out for some drinks. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but the problem arrives when you get home, you’re drunk, and you miss your ex. Instead of just going to sleep, you decide to call your ex at 3:00AM hoping for them to answer and tell you everything will be okay. Unfortunately, it never happens this way. They will either not answer, or if they do they will be extremely upset by your behavior! Instead of correcting the problems in your relationship, you are damaging them.

#2: Sounding Desperate

Even if you do not call at 3:00AM many people still call their ex that they spent so much time with. Instead of being strong and sounding confident in your single life, you may tear up and have the desire to tell them how much you miss them. Do not do this! It’s okay to tell them that you miss spending time with them on occasion, but it should be far less than something you do everyday, or do every time you see or speak to them. In fact, if you just recently have broken up, I would encourage you to wait at least a week or even two weeks before saying anything about your desire to get back with them.

#3: Over-Calling

Oh boy, is this a problem! It does link to sounding desperate, but I thought it was so common that it was worth mentioning by itself. Sure, I understand that you miss your ex, but this is not the time to make attempts of keeping them close to you. They obviously broke up for a reason and are expecting some separation time. This is understandably difficult for anyone in your situation. However, you are better off giving them the separation they want than crowding them and risk making him or her very upset. Again, this pushes them away rather than draws them closer which is what you want in the long run, right?

#4: Making Them Jealous

It is very likely that you probably hang out with the same friends as your ex did. This means that it is not uncommon to be in the same room with your ex immediately after a break up. Wow, I know, this is awkward! Most people want to play it off like it is no big deal or want to make their ex jealous. So they start flirting with someone else directly in front of them. This isn’t attractive at all! In fact, it will only hurt your ex and probably damage the possibility of getting back with them. At the same time, you don’t need to be tearing up in front them. Just be cool, say hi, and do not purposely avoid them. This will help the situation even though it will be awkward for a little while!